ABC's Sunlen Miller reports: Move over, Oprah.� Michelle Obama might be taking over.
Opening up with relationship advice, how to choose a ?good husband,? self-esteem, and the attractiveness of her husband, the First Lady held a casual chat with a group of women today, dripping in girl power.
The gab session happened with a group of high school students visiting Oxford University to receive a campus tour and speak with the First Lady about their goals, career and?well, life.
There were no car giveaways. No picks for book club. But there was an awful lot of advice, emotions, and ?sharing secrets,? in the words of the First Lady herself, exchanged.
First ? how to choose a husband. Girls, do not have a checklist, Mrs. Obama advised.
?There are a lot of women who have the boxes. Did he go to the right school? What is his income, you know??
The First Lady said that for her ?it was none of that? which led her to choose her husband to marry.
?It was how he felt about his mother. The love he felt for his mother. His relationship to women. His work ethic,? Mrs. Obama said, ?he did his work and he was good. And he was smart. And I liked that. And he was low-key and he wasn?t impressed with himself. And he was funny. And we joked a lot. And he loved his little sister.?
Those values, Mrs. Obama said, coupled with talent made her agree to call Barack Obama her husband.
?And he?s cute,? she added, ?I always thought he would be useful. But I had no idea he was going to be president.?
The lesson for women, the First lady said is to ?reach for partners that make you better.?
?Do not bring people in your life who weigh you down and trust your instincts. Good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don?t hurt. They are not painful. That is not just with somebody you want to marry but with the friends you choose.?
Then ? on to relationships women will have with other women. Be nice, Mrs. Obama said today.
?You all have to be supportive of each other. You can?t be jealous. And push and trip. It?s hard enough,? Mrs. Obama said, ?there is room for everyone to succeed.?
Next ? on to self-esteem and self-doubt.
Mrs. Obama said as a young student she was told she?d never do well in school and then later in her life her background meant that she couldn?t succeed at an elite university.
Those doubts don?t disappear, Mrs. Obama said.
?I have doubts today. Doubts don?t go away. You just learn how to deal with them. You start knowing yourself and you become more confident. The more successes you have, the more chances you take, you don?t let the failures or the stumbles define you.?
Mrs. Obama said though to ?choose your mistakes? wisely because often big mistakes made when younger can stay with you for awhile.
?You have to practice who you want to be. You don?t want up one morning and you?re suddenly who you think you want to be. You have to put some energy into it.?
The First Lady spoke about her own life in the White House ? juggling being a mom and First Lady.
?Yesterday we slept in Buckingham Palace. We had a state dinner with the Queen. Friday I?ll go home and go to soccer and look over homework,? Mrs. Obama said, ?It can range from very mundane and normal to my god, who could have every dreamed? That is what life is like in the White House.?
With passing reference to perhaps the pomp and circumstance of this week?s State Visit to London, Mrs. Obama said the pageantry is not what?s most important.
?The dresses. The cars. The horses. The carriages. I can watch that on TV, but moving you guys and pushing you to see more for yourselves, is all that matters.?
One of the students asked 'when the United States will have a woman president?'
?I think we?re there,? Mrs. Obama quickly responded, ?� so now the challenge is, our preparation as women and our desire and willingness to step up and grab that ring.?
Mrs. Obama said that he husband?s former ?formidable opponent in the primaries,? Hillary Clinton is a ?fabulous leader,? by way of example
?We have examples of outstanding women like her in leadership all over the world. So it?s completely there. The question is are we ready? Are we as young women ready to take that responsibility on and go after it and take the risk that go with stepping out there and being judged.?
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